Now I think I am pretty good at giving out advice. To a friend who’s stuck, or advice on how to solve a problem in a work place, or to give a bit of courage to the kids I teach. I can dish it out and can normally give you a good answer. That answer may either hopefully shed some light on the situation or help in some small way. But… and that is a BIG BUT! I can never seem so accept advice or comments when directed at me or even listen to my own advice that I willingly give out.
I know if I am dealing with something, I like to do it by myself. I don’t really like to talk out about it and assume I can deal with it all myself. When in reality I can’t. Up go the walls and 6 different voices in my head have spoken and made the decision between them. Normally it’s the choice with the least collateral that gets me from A to B without any hassle, regardless if that is the best thing for me to do or not.
In the moment when someone is giving me advice, I just can’t seem to accept what they are saying. I feel like the friendly words of advice and help are almost like an attack on my situation and thoughts. I have probably considered the options before but rehearing them from someone else is something I find difficult to take in or comprehend. I feel like I have to do it all myself, the world is against me and I am all alone in my situation. Of course, at the end of the day, in life you have to make the final decision but it’s really difficult when people are trying to shed you some light. Even if it was the other way around and a friend was in whatever situation I am in, I would probably give them the same advice they are giving me, yet I can’t comprehend the advice that is being given to me at all. It’s just another thing to consider and mull over for hours on end (I really hope this all makes sense! I am babbling a lot, I’m hoping this is relatable).
To go along with this, I know I am also awful at taking a compliment. ‘You look really nice today’, ‘Oh wait me! Uhh uhh thanks uhh uhh (finds something negative to say back eg…) Oh yeah I spilled tooth paste here a little though look.’ Few the negative avoided the nice compliment that can’t possibly be about me really, they are just being nice. I just don’t understand why my brain does that. For F*$k sake Chloe take the bloody compliment and move on!! Take the advice and mull it over
This was probably a blog post dragging myself but I am just really rubbish at taking advice. Maybe someone can relate to this? Or give me advice! I’m not sure. Haha oh dear!
Thanks Chloe May x
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